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FIVE QUESTIONS
As Many Ways to Grieve as There Are
Desks in the Office
By JONATHAN D. GLATER
Published on September 16, 2001
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Tomorrow,
many people will be returning to work for the first time
since last week's terrorist attack, and they will be carrying
the burden of the horrible things they have seen on television
or perhaps in person. The psychological state of employees
affects how they approach work, and how managers handle the
situation can make the adjustment easier or harder.
Dr. Kerry J. Sulkowicz, a psychiatrist, runs a small management
consulting firm that has advised companies coping with difficult
transitions. As a volunteer, he counseled employees, family members
and friends at the crisis center set up by Cantor Fitzgerald,
an investment firm that may have lost several hundred employees
in one of the World Trade Center towers.
Q. What are the challenges when employees
return?
A. There is a sense of
disbelief, a sense of unreality about what has happened. People
may appear disconnected emotionally from events. That may be
translated into people looking spaced out, very anxious, fearful,
easily startled, depressed or sad and tearful. People may develop
substance abuse problems or such problems may worsen, and some
people may engage in suicidal or self-destructive behavior.
Another common thing that people ought to be alert to is physical
symptoms, whether that's gastrointestinal problems, diarrhea,
insomnia, headaches or other aches and pains. Another reaction
may be denial — people may think they can go back to
business as usual, and that is false. This is not business
as usual.
It is crucially important to allow people, if they wish, the
time and the space to talk about their feelings, about how
they are processing this experience. And this doesn't need
to be done just once, because people are going to be reacting
to this in their own individual ways for a long time to come,
and I mean weeks and months. One meeting on Monday is not going
to be enough. That's just a start.
Q. How can employers reassure and motivate
workers?
A. It is reasonable to
say, "We are doing everything we can to ensure the security
of our company, or our office building, or whatever the environment
is, and we are going to cooperate with all of the authorities
in beefing up security or whatever is necessary." We don't
want to be in a state of denial.
The leaders in organizations need to set the example both in
terms of trying to resume work in as regular a way as possible
but also to set the example that resuming work and trying to
return to productivity is inconsistent with trying to deal
with emotional pain this has caused.
I would try to have high expectations of employees, but reasonable
expectations. What's reasonable? I don't know — nobody
has been through this before. I don't think it's a matter of
managers having to really push all that hard to get employees
to work hard, because most will want to return to work. It
makes them feel more productive and counters feelings of helplessness
that so many people feel.
Q. Should employers set up volunteer drives?
A. A volunteer drive is
an excellent idea for several reasons beyond the obvious — the
obvious being that there are a lot of people who need help.
It also helps the employees who were not directly affected
to feel like they're doing something useful and active, rather
than being passive.
Anybody who was not directly affected is susceptible to feeling
guilt that they survived and others didn't, so doing something
active, whether it's making donations or donating food, services
or blood, helps address that feeling.
Q. How can employers prevent discrimination
against Arab-Americans or Muslims?
A. It's normal to
be angry at what happened and to look for somebody to
blame. If people express anger, I wouldn't in any way
want to squelch that.
On the other hand, managers should discourage an angry
moblike response that labels entire ethnic or religious
groups as responsible. If that happens, somebody needs
to express the voice of reason and say that these are
terrible people who did very terrible, awful things.
We don't know who, but it's certainly not a race. It's
a group of people, it's a highly organized group of terrorists,
but not an entire ethnic group. That distinction needs
to be made clear.
Q. How tolerant should supervisors
be when workers say they are unable to work?
A. Very tolerant.
I wouldn't let the conversation end there, but this is
really hard on people. This is trauma of the biggest
sort, and I would not respond cynically to anyone saying
that they feel incapacitated.
People's reaction to trauma is determined by their personality
and life experiences prior to the trauma. Two people
at adjacent desks may experience what happened completely
differently.
Someone who has experienced trauma early in life or someone
who has a pre-existing mental illness may be more vulnerable.
Managers may not know about that kind of history.
If someone needs help, they should get it. There are
lots of mental health professionals in New York City
who are doing amazing things right now; that help is
available.
It may be helpful to bring mental health workers to talk
to groups of people on site. Employers should not hold
back on providing these support services, or else the
consequences will be very severe in the long run, in
terms of long-term mental health problems. This is not
a time to scrimp.
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